29-year-old woman refuses to share late parents' inheritance with her estranged, ’rebellious’ younger brother, resulting in a heated sibling feud: ‘He’d had years to reach out’

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    AITAH for Refusing to Share My Parents Inheritance With My Estranged Brother?
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    My (29F) parents passed away unexpectedly last year, and as painful as it was to process, things got even more complicated when I found out about their will. My brother (27M) and I were raised
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    together, but he cut ties with our family when he turned 18, right after a massive argument with my dad. He's always had a rebellious streak and thought our family was
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    "holding him back." After leaving, he never made any effort to reconnect, not even when our mom was hospitalized a few years ago. I tried reaching out multiple times, but he ignored my calls and texts.
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    When my parents passed, I was shocked to find out they had left everything to me. They made it clear in the will that my brother would receive nothing because, in their words, he
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    had "chosen a different path." It broke my heart to see that they felt so estranged from him, but I understood why they made that choice. My parents worked hard for
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    what they had, and they were deeply hurt by his decision to walk away and stay gone. A few months after their passing, my brother showed up out of the blue,
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    acting like nothing had happened. He apologized for "being distant" and said he wanted to "start fresh" as family. At first, I was cautiously optimistic maybe he'd genuinely
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    changed. But then he brought up the inheritance. He seemed surprised that he wasn't included in the will and said that regardless of what happened in the past, he was still "entitled" to half of what our parents left.
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    I was taken aback. I told him the will was clear, and our parents had made their decision based on how he'd treated them. He got angry, accusing me of "taking advantage of the
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    situation" and calling me greedy. He said it was unfair for me to keep it all when I know he's been struggling financially. It felt manipulative, like he was only interested in reconnecting because of the money.
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    After a heated argument, I told him I wasn't willing to share the inheritance. I reminded him that he'd had years to reach out, and if he really cared about family, he wouldn't
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    have waited until there was money involved to show up. He argued that I'm punishing him for past mistakes and that our parents "had no right" to exclude him. Now he's
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    telling other family members that I'm being selfish and trying to paint me as the "bad sibling." Some relatives have reached out, saying I should "do the right thing"
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    and share, arguing that it's what our parents would have wanted. Part of me feels guilty, like maybe I'm letting my resentment toward him cloud my judgment. But I
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    also feel like he made his choices, and he doesn't get to swoop in now that there's something to gain. I don't know if I'm being too harsh, though, or if I'm just respecting my parents' wishes. Am I the ahle?
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    lapsteelguitar 20h ago. Given that you had no contact with him for several years, how are you supposed to know that your brother was having financial difficulties?
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    As for "what your parents wanted", they made that clear in their will. So tell that part of the family what to do with themselves. NTA
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    Material_Assu... • 20h ago. But your parents clearly stipulated that they did not want him to get the inheritance.... so it isn't what your parents would have wanted.
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    So basically go against your parents' will, give him half, and watch him ghost you. Or follow the will and have 0 repercussions. NTA, it seems like you made the right call.
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    PhilaBurger • 20h ago . NTA. He wanted nothing to do with you or your parents...until money became involved. The "right thing" would have been for him to understand the error of his ways, long before your parents took ill or, eventually, passed.
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    He made his choice...he wanted nothing from or to do with the family. Your parents honored his choice and ensured that he got nothing from the family. FAFO, at its finest.

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